Comments on: Sorry, You are slightly fat to be loved by my standards… http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/ Reality Sucks! I'm Going to Keep On Dreamin........ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 16:37:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Another Dreamer http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-197 Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:00:11 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-197 This Video made me cry.. It’s so touching and meaningful :)
Thanks for sharing it.

And these ridiculous requests jst keep on increasin.. dun they?

]]> By: sh00nya http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-191 Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:32:58 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-191 reminds me of this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2XLZsiCBsA

well it’s the beautiful imperfections that make a relationship go the long way but unfortunately many don’t seem to realize it :|

Oh and yea on this side of India i have seen some ridiculous arranged marriage alliance requests (resulting in rejects) that do have weight (as one of the) criteria (at times down to comparative “grams” :/ )? the other absurd ones being height difference of sometimes an inch, age diff as high as 8 yrs and at times put precise at 5.25 years, high spectacle numbers and the list goes on and on….

Rants rants and too many of them……

]]> By: Another Dreamer http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-185 Fri, 17 Apr 2009 07:51:39 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-185 Well then looks like I was idealizing Love.. I would expect to be loved for who I’m, not the way I look. Reasoning it out with chemicals really doesn’t make it so attractive :)
I agree marriage can be for lot of reasons other than love. But I would still not count weight as a factor for it

]]> By: Another Dreamer http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-183 Fri, 17 Apr 2009 07:17:56 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-183 yeah.. it made lil sense :)
but wasn’t that the point – aftr being together for a while you would expect these thngs to vanish, not come up..

]]> By: suudhan http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-182 Thu, 16 Apr 2009 20:08:44 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-182 I agree with Eric.. I have very similar notions of such things..
I almost always find a beautiful girl getting married to a handsome guy (in our current generation)..
may be somewhere in our mind, we evaluate where we stand in the beauty quotient, and look for someone who belong to the same level..
but all this is applicable only for the initial phase – just for asking out on a date maybe.. once we have passed this state, when love develops, such things should never interfere, and if it does, that means one person is still stuck in the initial phase, while the other has progressed to further phases.. and when one person realizes this, breakup ensues.. – its unfortunate, and hurtful, but the lesson to be learnt here is that it is necessary to be aware, and cautious at every point in a relationship, in order to avoid getting overly hurt.. but again such quest for awareness has a fine line – we can’t overlook, and we can’t take-it-for-granted.. we have be to just aware enough… ufff.. and that is where we all fail.. and sometimes it could be too much…
ok, i have rattled something here.. have so much theory in my mind about such things… and when i saw this post, i had to say something..
does any of this makes sense?

]]> By: Eric Wilde http://extremeconflicts.me/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-181 Thu, 16 Apr 2009 16:45:37 +0000 http://extremeconflicts.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/sorry-you-are-slightly-fat-to-be-loved-by-my-standards/#comment-181 This isn’t really a surprising story. People are like that. And by people, I mean both men and women. I’ve known both men and women who have broken their relationship, or even been divorced, because of simple looks – including weight.

To my mind, Love is not an idealized state. Its a mixture of powerful chemicals in the brain that cause us to feel certain strong emotions. Sexual attractiveness is a significant part of that experience – whether it be from looks or brains or personality or whatever. Social learning has a tremendous amount to do with it as well; but, the immediate causes and experience I believe are much more chemical.

The same is true with devotion, even when gained over years of close companionship.

This fact doesn’t make love or devotion any less meaningful; but, it does take away a lot of the mythology surrounding such things.

Marriage can be with or without love. There are lots of reasons to marry someone, not all of which equate to Love.

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